Have you ever noticed yourself playing out the exact same argument with a new partner, or feeling irrationally triggered by a friend's seemingly innocent comment? Welcome to the world of core schemas . Developed by Dr. Jeffrey Young as the foundation of Schema Therapy, schemas are deep, enduring beliefs about ourselves and others that we form during childhood. Think of them as invisible emotional blueprints. While these beliefs helped us navigate our early environments, carry

Happy Valentine’s Day. Or, as it’s known in clinical circles: The Annual Festival of Attachment Activation. While the rest of Soho is currently battling for the last bouquet of overpriced roses or a table for two in a crowded bistro, let’s take a moment to look under the hood of the romantic engine. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why you keep dating the same "emotionally unavailable" person in a different leather jacket, or why you’re bored by the "nice" ones, you ar

In schema therapy, we view this relentless drive not just as a personality trait, but as a coping mode for a deeper, more painful internal structure known as the Defectiveness Schema.

Do you often feel like no one truly "gets" you? Do you find yourself constantly taking care of others, yet feeling like your own emotional needs are destined to go unmet? You might be dealing with one of the most common, yet hardest to identify, life patterns: the Emotional Deprivation Schema. Of all the patterns we see in the therapy room, Emotional Deprivation is often the most elusive. Unlike trauma or abandonment, which are defined by what happened  to you, Emotional Depr